What do you want? The answer to that question can make a huge difference in your life. We all know that’s true when it comes to setting goals, making plans and overcoming obstacles. We don’t always use the concept when it comes to our relationships. What if you were to ask yourself that question until you get a clear, reasonable answer? Consider this scenario:
- My husband never pays attention to me.
- What do you want?
- I want him to pay attention to me
- What do you want?
- I want him to listen when I talk
So many people see tears as a sign of weakness. They think that when you cry you show vulnerability to people who will harm you. I say when you don’t cry you make yourself vulnerable to your greatest potential enemy. I am not ashamed to admit that I have had many experiences that were so painful, scary, frustrating, or hopeless that all I could do was cry. I can also say that, after I had a good cry and a good nap, I woke up with a much clearer mind. That clearer mind led to a plan. Sometimes I followed the plan and sometimes God gave me a different one. When in comes to emotions in general and tears specifically, men are seriously short changed. As women, we get to have all of the emotions, we can be afraid, embarrassed, angry, frustrated, upset, confused even “hormonal.” and for all of those emotions we get to cry. We can even cry when we are happy, at movies, in public, because someone else cried, etc. Men have one completely socially acceptable emotion, Anger. All they get to be is ticked off! No wonder they so often abuse: drugs, alcohol, walls & doors (by punching them) and women they actually love. Ladies, use your tears as a way to relieve stress and clear your mind. Try crying it out, taking a nap and waking up with a prayer and a plan. I know that I usually speak to women, but part of today’s message is for men. Gentlemen, please make sure you have a least one person in your life you can cry in front of. You have all of the emotions women have and holding them in is destructive to you, everyone you love and everyone who loves you.